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You know you have ADHD when… [article from www.ADDitudemag.com]

Click here to read original article from ADDitude.com!

We asked, “You know you have ADHD when…” and you shared these funny, sad, and poignant ADHDisms. Read. Share. Enjoy. Here’s to living well with — and finding humor in — attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)!

1. You can’t find your car keys or your spare set, and your husband is hesitant to lend you his keys because you will probably misplace those, too. (And, you agree, he may be right!)
—Kathy Zimovan, South Carolina

2. You can’t see your alarm clock on the nightstand because of the stack of books you’re reading — all at the same time.
—Stan Herring, Birmingham, Alabama

3. You buy another organizing system, to organize your last five organizing systems.
—Letta Neely, Boston, Massachusetts

4. You look for your eyeglasses, and they are sitting on top of your head, or you find the remote control for the DVD player in the refrigerator.
—Melissa, Hampton, New Jersey

5. You can’t see over the piles of paper in your office, but when someone asks you for a document, you say, “Oh, that is in this pile.”
—Rebecca Chadwick, Wyomissing, Pennsylvania

6. You forget what you were doing in the middle of taking a shower!
—Angela Kohlbrecher, Breezy Point, New York

7. You stop at a stop sign, sit there, and stare at the sign, waiting for it to turn green.
—Dennis Murdock, Ottawa, Ontario, Canada

8. Your students remind you of what you were talking about before you were distracted by one of them sneezing.
—Rebecca Taylor, High Point, North Carolina

9. While considering your answer to a question, you wonder what’s for supper.
—Cindy, Chicopee, Massachusetts

10. The person sitting beside you grabs your attention, but so does the heating unit shutting on and off, the fluorescent light flickering above you, and a bird flying by the window!
—Kimberly Zimmerman, Kansas

11. I’m sorry. What was the question again?
—An ADDitude Reader

12. Going shopping takes three attempts.

—Syrah, ADDitudemag.com forums member

13. You have enough money in the bank to pay bills, yet you simply forget to!
—Nancy, ADDitudemag.com forums member

14. You’re talking on the phone and have a moment of panic where you ask, “Where is my phone!?!” and tell the person on the other end of the line that you’ve lost your phone.
—roneydapony, ADDitudemag.com forums member

15. You lose something you need…and you haven’t moved from your seat.

16. You wonder about the weird sound “everyone else’s” cars are making, only to realize, 15 minutes down the road, that you’ve been driving with your parking brake on!
—Courey, ADDitudemag.com forums member

17. You dial a number, but, by the time someone answers, you forget who you’re calling.
—stew4aa, ADDitudemag.com forums member

18. You realize you have five years’ worth of Christmas cards nicely printed, stuffed, addressed, and never mailed!
—kan65, ADDitudemag.com forums member

19. Your spouse asks you for a cup of water and you go and make a peanut butter sandwich for yourself…
—JD, ADDitudemag.com forums member

20. You spend almost an hour looking for your favorite watch, give up, and grab another watch. After you pull up your long sleeve to put the watch on, you stare for a few minutes because your favorite watch is already on your hand.
—Adsartha, ADDitudemag.com forums member

21. You start cleaning the kitchen…and find something that belongs in the office. You go to the office to put it away, sit down to check your e-mail, go on Facebook instead, decide to write a poem, and several hours later realize that the water in the sink is cold.
—wifemomstudent, ADDitudemag.com forums member

22. You leave with enough time to be early for your ADD doctor’s appointment, but are thinking of other things and drive to work instead and end up late.
—Graceful Dave, ADDitudemag.com forums member

23. You would rather have your purse stolen than your planner! You can replace the stuff in your purse — it would be a hassle, but it can be done. But your planner — that’s your life!
—Wander, ADDitudemag.com forums member

24. You lose your son in your house. You were busy going through paperwork, when you absent-mindedly put your 20 month-old son down for a nap. Ten minutes later you come into the living room where your son normally is playing and don’t see him. You panic and yell, “I lost Jacob! I lost Jacob!” Your neighbor comes running to your apartment, with phone in hand, ready to dial 911, but she finds your son sound asleep in his bed.
—rozie, ADDitudemag.com forums member

25. You drain the can of soup you just opened for lunch.
—spazmom, ADDitudemag.com forums member

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria – [article]

Dealing with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and ADHD

Tuesday, November 28 2017 . Original article found here: https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/livingwithadultadhd/2017/11/adhd-and-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria

Psychiatrist William Dodson developed a term specifically applicable to people with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD). Rejection sensitive dysphoria applies to people with ADHD because ADHDers tend to be particularly sensitive. While the existence of RSD is up for debate, the emotionality of ADHDers is not. Many with the disorder agree that they are extremely sensitive to rejection, criticism, and failure.

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Mindful Awareness: How to Combat ADHD Symptoms with Meditation [article]

Mindful Awareness: How to Combat ADHD Symptoms with Meditation [article]

Article found at: https://www.additudemag.com/mindfulness-meditation-for-adhd/

For many adults and children with ADHD, two persistent daily challenges are paying attention and maintaining self-regulation. So it stands to reason that some kind of attention training that also hones self-control would be invaluable — and incredibly powerful.

Well, it turns out one such treatment strategy has been around for thousands of years, and it’s a hot research topic at the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center (MARC). ADDitude’s Carl Sherman, Ph.D., spoke with psychiatrist Lidia Zylowska, M.D., who heads the center’s ADHD program.

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Saving Summer with Structure [article]

*Article from www.additudemag.com*

Children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) do better when they know what to expect — and what’s expected of them. This is especially true of younger children, who are quick to shout, “I’m bored” if there isn’t something going on every second. So, what can a parent do to make sure their kids’ and pre-teens’ days are filled with structure and fun activities this summer?

Experts agree that it’s important to exercise a child’s body and mind. “Children can lose a lot of what they’ve worked so hard to gain during the school year,” says Jane Hannah, Ed.D., author of Parenting a Child with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. Plan some regular activities to give them a boost. Decide whether you and your child can do them on your own or whether he would benefit from a tutor, a specialized camp, or a workshop. Reinforce academic accomplishments with fun rewards — bowling, visiting the playground, swimming.

Parents’ Best Boredom-Beating, Brain-Boosting Summertime Tips:

Create summer routines and schedules. Don’t wait for your child to ask for direction. Post a weekly schedule of planned activities, along with blocks marked out for free time. As new ideas occur, fill in the free-time blocks. List everything — from casual, open-ended activities, like reading or time on the computer, to structured ones, like cooking projects.

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ADHD Is Different for Women [article]

ADHD Is Different for Women [article]

Article found at: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/04/adhd-is-different-for-women/381158/

When you live in total squalor—cookies in your pants drawer, pants in your cookies drawer, and nickels, dresses, old New Yorkers, and apple seeds in your bed—it’s hard to know where to look when you lose your keys. The other day, after two weeks of fruitless searching, I found my keys in the refrigerator on top of the roasted garlic hummus. I can’t say I was surprised. I was surprised when my psychiatrist diagnosed me with ADHD two years ago, when I was a junior at Yale.

In editorials and in waiting rooms, concerns of too-liberal diagnoses and over-medication dominate our discussions of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD. The New York Times recently reported, with great alarm, the findings of a new Centers for Disease Control and Prevention study: 11 percent of school-age children have received an ADHD diagnosis, a 16 percent increase since 2007. And rising diagnoses mean rising treatments—drugs like Adderall and Ritalin are more accessible than ever, whether prescribed by a physician or purchased in a library. The consequences of misuse and abuse of these drugs are dangerous, sometimes fatal.

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Uncomfortable Truths About the ADHD Nervous System [from www.additudemag.com]

Uncomfortable Truths About the ADHD Nervous System [from www.additudemag.com]

Easily bored, sensitive to distractions, creative and intense. If you grew up with ADHD, chances are you always felt “different.” Now here’s a scientific explanation, finally, of why we act the way we do.

What I have come to understand — something that people with ADHD know from an early age — is that, if you have an ADHD nervous system, you might as well have been born on a different planet.

Most people with ADHD have always known they are different. They were told by parents, teachers, employers, spouses, and friends that they did not fit the common mold and that they had better shape up in a hurry if they wanted to make something of themselves.

As if they were immigrants, they were told to assimilate into the dominant culture and become like everyone else. Unfortunately, no one told them how to do this. No one revealed the bigger secret: It couldn’t be done, no matter how hard they tried. The only outcome would be failure, made worse by the accusation that they will never succeed because ADHD in adults means they don’t try hard enough or long enough.

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Why Social Situations Exhaust Introverts: A Programmer’s Take – by Erik Dietrich

It is very common for those of us with ADHD to be introverts; completely capable of entertaining ourselves and thoroughly enjoying alone time. We have the innate ability to hyper-focus, and we are easily distracted – two characteristics that can make it hard to live in a world where extroversion is valued.

Original article found here.

Why Social Situations Exhaust Introverts: A Programmer’s Take – by Erik Dietrich

I’m going to apologize in advance if this winds up being a long post, but it’s a topic that requires a great deal of introspection and I find that attempting to explain myself is one of the hardest things to abbreviate. Over the years, I’ve read a bit about the topic of introversion versus extroversion and, being in an industry in which introversion is often assumed, I’ve also seen a number of memes about it. This one is probably my favorite, if for no other reason than seeing the poor introvert hissing like a cat at some invasive extrovert.

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Secrets of the ADHD brain [article]

Article can be found at: https://www.additudemag.com/secrets-of-the-adhd-brain/

Attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) is a confusing, contradictory, inconsistent, and frustrating condition. It is overwhelming to people who live with it every day. The diagnostic criteria that have been used for the last 40 years leave many people wondering whether they have the condition or not. Diagnosticians have long lists of symptoms to sort through and check off. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders has 18 criteria, and other symptom lists cite as many as 100 traits.

Practitioners, including myself, have been trying to establish a simpler, clearer way to understand the impairments of ADHD. We have been looking for the “bright and shining line” that defines the condition, explains the source of impairments, and gives direction as to what to do about it.

My work for the last decade suggests that we have been missing something important about the fundamental nature of the ADHD brain. I went back to the experts on the condition — the hundreds of people and their families I worked with who were diagnosed with it — to confirm my hypothesis. My goal was to look for the feature that everyone with ADHD has, and that neurotypical people don’t have.

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ADHD hacks! [article]

There are thousands of articles that will tell you how you can “hack” your life to be more productive, happy, successful, etc. Furthermore, it seems like the Internet is awash with hacks that claim to help people with ADHD manage their lives. But what does “ADHD hack” really mean?

A life hack is a simple recommendation that is specific and easy to implement. Oftentimes, an ADHD hack is merely a common sense piece of advice. While there is nothing inherently wrong with advice, a hack is supposed to help with a specific problem. I find most so-called hacks to be far too general, difficult to actually use, or even just plain false! To help you separate the weat from the chaff, I have combed through a number of websites with ADHD hacks and compiled the most useful ones below (sources listed at the end):

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